In this world today, where society expects and burdens us with their standards so much, it's quiet difficult to be happy. Not all the smiles you see are because of happiness and not all the people out there, dancing and grooving are because they are happy. A lot of time it's just a get away from the hectic, draining life. being happy is not easy and choosing happiness over other emotions is not as easy as choosing ice-cream flavors. Every person perceives happiness differently. Some feel, if they go and live somewhere else, they'll be happy, they feel as if they don't belong here but does happiness really work that way? i mean, wherever you go, where-ever you stay you take yourself with you, right? what if you don't like the place you've moved to? or what if you like that place at first but then after a few months or years, the feelings of not-belonging and detachment make a re-entry in your life.. what then?
If happiness was a real person, then i would've being the person with the most conflicts with them. i always chose all the other emotions over happiness most of my life, but there comes a point in your life where you long for the feeling you've had the most conflicts with. A lot of people have conflict with love. In your entire life you will meet at least one person who will say I'm never falling in love. Love is not my cup of tea. A lot of time these are the people who have fallen in love and then got betrayed by it, But happiness doesn't work like that. one doesn't have to be betrayed by happiness to feel detached by it, then what is it? why is it that we, mostly our generation feels so detached from it? why are we longing for something which we may find within ourselves. why are we searching for it when clearly it's just like any other emotion and we can choose to be it, yet we don't and crave for the exact opposite feeling and then long for it as if it's not possible to be happy. The question here shouldn't be why are we not happy, but why aren't we choosing happiness?
Question and Questions... Most of the facts you have listed but you should have also listed some clues or ways with solution to overcome this depressing state of mind... at least for the people like me who are stick with particular emotion for a long and then confuse whether its right or wrong..
ReplyDeleteChoosing happiness comes with lot of hurdles because when you try to be happy all the force in the universe try to let you down
Thank you for the comment.. <3 now lets answer your queries... hihi
ReplyDeleteYes, there are many questions in this post.. but if you read carefully.. there are answers in these questions too.. for example, "why are we longing for something which we may find within ourselves". I feel a lot of times questions are necessary no matter how stupid your questions sound.. coz i feel questions are something which will finally lead you to the answers.. wrong or right doesn't matter.. but you will have an answer..
When i was writing this post.. i wasn't really writing it to solve this Happiness mystery and give answers.. i wrote it thinking.. "reading it, thinking about it.. readers will come with their own unique answers which will suit their perspective.. i can't give a definite solution to this question.. not becoz i'm not a psychiatrist but also becoz happiness is different for everyone".. Different people.... um.. as i have wrote in this post.. everyone, every person perceives happiness differently.. so if i would've wrote any solution it would've being from my perspective and that solution may have brought happiness to me but maybe not to you or anyone else...
Happiness is above wrong or right i feel.. sometimes wrong decisions may lead you to happiness .. and sometimes what you may think as the right decision may lead you to misery..
of course!! as i said in my post, choosing happiness is not like choosing ice cream flavors.. it is difficult.. but maybe worth it.. i feel we long for it for soo long that finally when we truly have it.. it all seems worth, not that i have being rewarded with the ultimate happy life.. but i think whatever it may be.. you just have to accept whatever life offers.. express the longing emotions and let go of the burdens and try to smile.. i guess..